Why waste precious time and invest emotional energy with selfish people? No matter the allure 'unattainable' people exude, it's only there for us to realize that we are wasting time on childish hopes and dreams instead of investing it in ourselves by doing things that make us feel good and are good for us.
Selfish people are a very lonely bunch. They are unable to let anybody in because they are too busy looking up their own arsehole. Soon they discover that the only people who stick around are the ones who work for them: Often they mistake their cleaners, drivers, secretaries and so on for friends.
Because of their inability to take an interest in other people, as well as their unwillingness to engage in the necessary give and take required by all relationships, these people are magnets for the emotional needy type whose self esteem is fragile.
The emotional needy type is the one desperate for love and attention who is prepared to put up with less than his/her share because a low self esteem does not allow for more.
Ironically, instead of looking where one's needs could actually be met, the needy type chooses to focus the search on the very people unable to provide him with what he needs. This happens in order to point out, through repeated disappointment, that one can't find outside of oneself what one is looking for.
In life we can learn through pain and through joy. This is evident in Nature. Pain doesn't have to be feared as it's only there to highlight the areas we have to work through. But we can also choose to let joy do the highlighting and concentrate on it instead.
Sunday, 21 March 2010
Friday, 5 March 2010
Guilt and Gratefulness
Guilt and gratefulness are two sides of the spectrum I am uncomfortable with.
Guilt is an emotion I simply don't experience - as I never intentionally mean any harm - and gratefulness carries with it the implication of having an agenda and, generally speaking, both parties benefit something from all undertaken gestures thus, no need to be grateful.
Both emotions are far too binding for my liking.
Guilt is an emotion I simply don't experience - as I never intentionally mean any harm - and gratefulness carries with it the implication of having an agenda and, generally speaking, both parties benefit something from all undertaken gestures thus, no need to be grateful.
Both emotions are far too binding for my liking.
Wednesday, 3 March 2010
Trojan Horse
Whatever we do, say or give to someone must always come purely from the heart and from the honest and self-less desire to share with others, without any other motive involved.
When we give something in order to gain or tie someone's heart to us, we are setting ourselves up for disaster.
Beware of using the stratagem of the Trojan Horse to break into someone's heart.
These kind of gestures are easily recognizable by the emotional and often sexual connotation contained in the offering.
Manipulating, trying to win someone's affection with presents or by any other mean is only going to backfire.
This is the law of Karma.
When we give something in order to gain or tie someone's heart to us, we are setting ourselves up for disaster.
Beware of using the stratagem of the Trojan Horse to break into someone's heart.
These kind of gestures are easily recognizable by the emotional and often sexual connotation contained in the offering.
Manipulating, trying to win someone's affection with presents or by any other mean is only going to backfire.
This is the law of Karma.
Reincarnation
What happens to our souls when -- and if -- we re-incarnate? Do we only re-incarnate into human form in order to play out some sort of karmic plan? Will we be paying for what we have done now by, say, being re-incarnated into a mouse if in the previous life we tested on animals? Will we be enjoying the fruits of our hard labor? Is what happens in our present life some sort of 'setting the score right' from a previous existence? In my point of view none of the above applies...so many questions, so much superstition. Personally, when I don't like what's happening to me I simply accept it as something which I have to learn from for my next step up. Each episode, each situation will make me a better person. The only way is forward. Next time around, whatever shape my soul will take of one thing I'm sure: It'll be exactly what is right for me. Fear nothing but fear itself.
Love, always....
Alecs
Love, always....
Alecs
People who get away with it and people who don't
Category: Life
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to get away with murder (and I don't mean O.J., here), while some other get caught for the smallest thing? I bet you've asked yourself why that is...well, it's simple:
Only those who would be able to learn from their experience get punished, the other ones don't...poor bastards!
Only those who would be able to learn from their experience get punished, the other ones don't...poor bastards!
They who get what they want, and they who don't
Category: Life
The main reason behind the success of any enterprise lies in one's motivation --
the reason behind wanting to achieve something is most important.
In order to be successful one has to really want to do what one has set out to accomplish, and, generally speaking, one's main motivation has to be that of wanting to share one's talents without having any further motive. Whatever comes from it -- applause, recognition -- will be a bonus.
Having said that, you may all have noticed that plenty of "unworthy" people seem to enjoy success. One doesn't actually have to be pure at heart or even honest in order to be successful, all that is required is that one believes to be so.
Scary?
the reason behind wanting to achieve something is most important.
In order to be successful one has to really want to do what one has set out to accomplish, and, generally speaking, one's main motivation has to be that of wanting to share one's talents without having any further motive. Whatever comes from it -- applause, recognition -- will be a bonus.
Having said that, you may all have noticed that plenty of "unworthy" people seem to enjoy success. One doesn't actually have to be pure at heart or even honest in order to be successful, all that is required is that one believes to be so.
Scary?
Capital Punishment
Category: Life
It goes without saying that I'm against the death penalty. It also goes without saying that the hanging of Saddam Hussein had nothing to do with Justice and all with Revenge. What perhaps few have considered is that as Saddam died showing his dignified agony to the world, we saw a man who had not been given a chance to repent, a man who died believing he was right and even misunderstood. A man, unfortunately, who will therefore have to go through a similar life path again.
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