Category: Life
A recurrent factor in life -- perhaps one that keeps presenting itself most regularly and in varied manifestations throughout, it's having to face situations where one's self-esteem is challenged and old, atavistic suffering and anxiety re-emerge.
In order to stop re-encountering this kind of situation and its determination to make us conquer it once and for all, we had better deal with it at its very onset.
Often the way one reacts whenever -- for example -- one is being told something derogatory, is at first to get angry then to feel hurt. Once one realizes that other's opinion of oneself does not necessarily coincide with the opinion one holds him/herself in, one can choose to ignore people's comments or, at least, to smile sweetly and let it all be as water off a duck's back.
The constant, insatiable need to prove and justify oneself usually comes from a scarred self-esteem (not from the actual opinion one holds oneself in), and from having been repeatedly put down by people who – because of their actual poor opinion of themselves and unwillingness toward any form of self-improvement – project their inadequacies onto others: the old twisted idea that by calling someone names, for some illogical reason one comes out looking better in comparison.
The same concept applies to the feeling of being unloved or not loved enough. Here,though, it's also important to make an effort to stop being over sensitive whenever total demonstration of never-ending love fails to come one's way and to remember that human beings have their limits.
Often such situations would seem to occur at the worst possible time -- a time perhaps when one was in dire need of re-assurance -- consider that, instead, what is happening is happening exactly when the impact would be the greatest, thus forcing us to give it all of our attention and allowing us, by resolving the issue once and for all, a chance to heal.
Love yourself, always
In order to stop re-encountering this kind of situation and its determination to make us conquer it once and for all, we had better deal with it at its very onset.
Often the way one reacts whenever -- for example -- one is being told something derogatory, is at first to get angry then to feel hurt. Once one realizes that other's opinion of oneself does not necessarily coincide with the opinion one holds him/herself in, one can choose to ignore people's comments or, at least, to smile sweetly and let it all be as water off a duck's back.
The constant, insatiable need to prove and justify oneself usually comes from a scarred self-esteem (not from the actual opinion one holds oneself in), and from having been repeatedly put down by people who – because of their actual poor opinion of themselves and unwillingness toward any form of self-improvement – project their inadequacies onto others: the old twisted idea that by calling someone names, for some illogical reason one comes out looking better in comparison.
The same concept applies to the feeling of being unloved or not loved enough. Here,though, it's also important to make an effort to stop being over sensitive whenever total demonstration of never-ending love fails to come one's way and to remember that human beings have their limits.
Often such situations would seem to occur at the worst possible time -- a time perhaps when one was in dire need of re-assurance -- consider that, instead, what is happening is happening exactly when the impact would be the greatest, thus forcing us to give it all of our attention and allowing us, by resolving the issue once and for all, a chance to heal.
Love yourself, always
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